Building in Silence: Why It Can Be Your Best Strategy
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Chapter 1: The Case for Silence
While many thrive by sharing their journeys publicly, some find it more beneficial to work quietly behind the scenes.
When you engage in public building, you gain several advantages, such as:
- A heightened sense of accountability
- A robust feedback mechanism
- Networking opportunities
Keeping an open-door policy can lead to friendly interactions and support, like someone bringing you tea or offering a smile. However, this openness also invites negative feedback, skepticism, and at times, outright negativity.
For some, this level of exposure can be overwhelming. The emotional toll can be significant, especially when criticism veers into the realm of unconstructive judgment.
If you prefer to create in silence, it can be a powerful strategy. Here’s why:
People Are Less Likely to Critique What They Don't Know
People often engage in discussions driven by their opinions. While some feedback can be invaluable, much of it can devolve into what I call "opinion tennis."
This game involves volleying opinions back and forth without truly listening to others. When you keep your projects under wraps, you minimize these distractions and can focus on your work without the noise of unsolicited advice.
More Space to Concentrate
If sharing your work publicly feels uncomfortable or distracting, building in silence can enhance your focus. By limiting the number of people aware of your endeavors, you create a more conducive environment for deep work.
As composer Stephen Hough once said, “Out of silence is born concentration, and from that comes progress.”
Prioritize Your Own Growth
Focus on your goals and hold yourself accountable. Instead of feeling pressured to showcase your progress to an audience, concentrate on impressing yourself.
Here are a few methods I employ for accountability:
- Weekly Reflections: I reserve time on Friday afternoons to assess my progress. If I’ve met my goals, I plan for the upcoming week on Sunday. If not, I prioritize finishing outstanding tasks.
- Trusted Accountability Partners: Establish regular check-ins with a couple of trusted friends who can provide constructive feedback. Whether it’s through calls, photos, or casual meet-ups, share progress and challenge each other.
- Constructive Feedback Loop: Surround yourself with a small group of honest and constructive peers. Diverse perspectives can offer insights and inspiration that you might not find within your immediate circle.
Effective Networking in Silence
You can still build valuable connections even while working quietly. Here’s how to do it effectively:
- Observe Before Engaging: Take time to assess potential connections. Pay attention to their communication styles and overall passion.
- Be Selective with Sharing: Choose carefully who you disclose your projects to, ensuring that you only share with those who resonate with your vision.
By limiting access to your knowledge and experiences, you enhance their value. This exclusivity often leads to deeper, more meaningful relationships.
Keep an eye on my weekly insights published on my Substack: Building Momentum, Solo.
Chapter 2: Inspirational Videos
The first video, "WHEN YOU BUILD IN SILENCE…PEOPLE DON'T KNOW WHAT TO ATTACK," explores the benefits of maintaining discretion in your endeavors, helping you avoid unnecessary criticism.
The second video, "Build in Silence, People Can't Attack What They Don't Know!" reinforces the idea that staying under the radar can protect your creative process from detractors.