When Shadows Reappear

Just as Alcoholics Anonymous refers to them as Character Defects, we all have our Defense Mechanisms or insecurities that can resurface unexpectedly. Personally, I find that my self-doubt and fear of rejection tend to emerge during challenging times. For instance, I hesitated for nearly six months to publish my book, KNOW LOVE, simply because I feared it wouldn't resonate with anyone.

The reality is that not only do some people want to hear my story, but many may actually need it. My experiences have the potential to resonate with those struggling with addiction, mental health issues, and various forms of trauma. It is with a sense of humility, not pride, that I acknowledge the impact my story can have.

Receiving feedback from individuals who were inspired by my vulnerability is profoundly humbling. It reinforces my commitment to remain vigilant about my insecurities. If I were to overcome a serious illness, I wouldn't revert to old habits; instead, I would continue the practices that brought me healing.

Recognizing and Addressing Triggers

I consider myself fairly grounded, so when I notice irritability or moodiness, I take a moment to pause and conduct a self-assessment. In recovery, we use a technique called H.A.L.T.—checking if we're Hungry, Angry, Lonely, or Tired. Hunger can often be managed with proper nutrition, but low blood sugar can still sneak up on me. To combat this, I keep healthy snacks like organic dried fruit and nuts handy.

Anger can be a significant challenge for me. More often than not, I can trace my irritability back to hunger. Fortunately, I am blessed with a supportive home and family, though I sometimes crave male companionship. For those who may feel isolated, it’s essential to seek connection, whether through support groups or community activities.

Nurturing Self-Care

Sleep is another critical factor in emotional well-being. I have a tendency toward F.O.M.O. (fear of missing out), which has led me to function on minimal sleep. However, I understand that everyone has different needs when it comes to rest. If you require a nap, embrace it!

Ultimately, you alone determine how to care for yourself—what you eat, when you rest, and how you seek companionship. Remember, anger is a secondary emotion and can be managed through self-awareness and responsibility.