Why Relationships Matter in Health Coaching

You may wonder why a coach specializing in health, fitness, nutrition, stress management, sleep, and recovery is discussing relationships. The answer lies in a common reality: as time passes, individuals tend to take each other for granted.

Having spent over a decade as a fact-based coach and having lived a few decades myself, I've witnessed this frequent issue in long-term relationships. My role goes beyond merely teaching about diet and exercise; it's about understanding people. In coaching, we delve into their journeys, emotions, successes, and setbacks. Over time, this creates a deep comprehension of how to foster better habits and guide individuals in their health and relationship paths.

The Importance of Self-Maintenance

It’s crucial to prioritize self-care for your well-being and that of your partner and relationship. Unfortunately, many partners neglect themselves, leading to negative outcomes. I’m not referring to minor fluctuations in weight or temporary periods of unfitness; rather, I’m addressing the serious neglect that can develop over time.

Aging and changing preferences are natural, but neglecting your health and fitness is not. Maintaining a reasonable level of self-care is attainable and beneficial for both individuals and their relationships. The choices you make directly impact your trajectory together, and while perfection is unrealistic, a commitment to self-maintenance is vital.

Maintaining Healthy Habits

Creating a healthy lifestyle is not a burdensome task. In fact, it can be quite the opposite. When both partners actively maintain their health, it fosters a positive atmosphere in the relationship. The responsibility for self-care is unilateral; your partner cannot assume that for you.

I often tell my clients, “I can provide guidance and knowledge, but it’s ultimately up to you to put in the work.” This same principle applies to relationships. Both partners must engage in self-care to support one another and the relationship.

The Dangers of Complacency

Neglect can manifest in small ways, such as losing the joy of shared moments like morning coffee or walks together. Over time, complacency can lead to neglecting physical attraction and intimacy. A once-vibrant relationship can deteriorate into mundane routines devoid of passion.

As time progresses, the effects of neglect can accumulate, leading to a decline in both individual health and relationship quality. Habits are formed through repeated actions, and when those actions are overlooked, the negative consequences become apparent.

Here’s the reality: no one becomes unhealthy overnight. Just like achieving a black belt or becoming a skilled writer requires consistent effort, so does maintaining a fulfilling relationship and sex life.

Rekindling the Flame

Even if you feel secure in your long-term relationship, that should not excuse neglecting your health or the relationship itself. The joy of mutual attraction, intimacy, and connection must be cultivated continuously.

As people age, it’s normal for certain biological changes to occur, but that should not be an excuse to stop prioritizing your health and the relationship. The truth is that a fulfilling sex life can improve with age if both partners are committed to maintaining it.

Maintaining Progress

To sustain a happy and healthy relationship, prioritize mutual effort. Relationships are not isolated; they require both partners to grow and evolve together. By continually engaging in self-care and nurturing your bond, you can prevent the relationship from descending into neglect.

Time spent away from the gym or neglecting healthy habits can lead to challenges, but those can be overcome with effort. It's essential to keep your relationship vibrant and fulfilling, just as you would with your physical health.