Managing Hair Loss: My Journey Through Four Decades
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My Hair Loss Experience: A Long-Term Challenge
I began to notice hair loss during my teenage years, yet it wasn't until my mid-twenties that I learned the underlying cause. Initially, I felt helpless, thinking there was little I could do to address it.
While swimming at a YMCA pool, a stranger, who happened to be a medical researcher, approached me. He suggested that I might be suffering from Polycystic Ovarian Disorder (PCOS) due to my hair loss. Although it was disheartening to hear, I decided to pursue further investigation. After consulting with an endocrinologist and undergoing tests, I received confirmation of the diagnosis. PCOS is relatively common and, while there’s no definitive cure, some symptoms can be managed. Unfortunately, the medications I tried did not halt my hair loss.
One of the symptoms of PCOS is an excess of male hormones produced by the ovaries. I believe my condition is compounded by hereditary male pattern baldness, which can be particularly disheartening for women. Over the years, my hair has gradually thinned, and I've found myself nearly bald on top. Recently, I started shaving what little hair remains, as it no longer looked appealing.
Through this journey, I have discovered various techniques to enhance my appearance and boost my self-esteem. If you're facing hair loss, know that it doesn't signal the end of the world; it's more of an inconvenience that can be managed.
Hair Thickeners: A Temporary Fix
In my younger days, I often relied on hair thickeners from local drugstores to mask my hair loss and create the illusion of fuller locks, as long as the thinning wasn't too severe.
Today, there are thickeners available online that yield impressive results. A popular brand is Toppik, which can be found on Amazon. However, a downside is the cost, making it less feasible for daily use. For those with significant baldness, it may not offer sufficient coverage since the fibers need existing hair to adhere to.
For mild to moderate hair loss, products like Toppik can work well for special occasions. I once witnessed a man at his barber's getting Toppik applied before his wedding photos—a great way to look your best!
Additionally, there are powder compacts that can be brushed on. I personally enjoyed a product by Joan Rivers that provided decent coverage, especially for minor bald spots.
Headwear: Hats, Scarves, and Turbans
Experimenting with various hats and scarves has been a delightful experience for me. I have amassed a diverse collection that complements different outfits and occasions.
When selecting headgear, consider the climate of your location. Residing in central Mexico, I experience warm days throughout most of the year, with cooler nights in December and January dropping to around 40°F.
During the summer months, I prefer a light cotton bandana that allows airflow while covering my bald head. I love its vibrant design, though I've struggled to find similar styles since purchasing it during a beach vacation years ago.
For warm weather, I highly recommend cotton or linen materials for hats and scarves, as they tend to be more comfortable and visually appealing than synthetic options. I once owned a stunning linen turban that was a bit pricey but well worth it. I should probably replace it, as it has stretched and no longer fits.
If your hair is very sparse, consider wearing a scarf or turban underneath your hat. This precaution is especially useful if there's a chance the wind could blow your hat away. Furthermore, if you need to remove your hat in certain situations, having a scarf or turban handy can help avoid revealing your baldness.
Wigs and Hairpieces: A Fun Alternative
Wearing wigs can be an enjoyable way to change my look. I often receive compliments and inquiries about my "hairstyle," to which I candidly reveal that it’s a wig. I've even experimented with bold colors like pink and burgundy.
While I typically don't lead with my hair loss story, I find it important to share with new acquaintances. Some may not recognize me immediately since I alternate between wigs and scarves, but my friends have become accustomed to my evolving style.
For those with minimal hair loss concentrated on the top, a hairpiece could be a more comfortable option than a full wig. Throughout my thirties, I wore a custom-made hairpiece crafted from real hair. Initially, I wore it constantly, even while sleeping or showering.
I acquired the hairpiece from a salon that also provided maintenance services every few weeks. The hairpiece was dyed to match my natural hair, and it was attached by pulling strands through small loops and securing them with superglue. Due to hair growth, this process required regular upkeep.
While living in Malaysia, I found a salon that used a different attachment method—sewing clips into the hairpiece that secured it to my natural hair. I adopted this clip method for many years afterward.
It's important to note that wigs can wear out over time, especially with frequent use. Generally, higher-priced wigs tend to look more natural and allow for customization. Many people opt for wig caps or gripper headbands beneath their wigs for added security, while others may sew or glue wigs onto their natural hair.
To enhance the natural appearance of a wig, pay attention to the hairline and part. If you choose a less expensive wig and still have some hair, wearing it slightly behind your natural hairline can help. Synthetic wigs often appear shiny initially, so I recommend dusting them with baby powder to reduce the sheen.
I've also honed my skills in trimming wigs to suit my face. In the beginning, I sought the help of a professional stylist, as some wigs benefit from a bit of customization to look their best straight out of the box.
One final note about wigs: they can be quite warm, similar to wearing a winter hat. I generally avoid wearing wigs when temperatures soar above 80°F.
I hope my insights have been valuable.
Hair loss can be distressing and disheartening at first, but I've learned that finding ways to look and feel good can make a significant difference. Now at 62 years old, I've had ample time to adjust to my hair loss journey.
I welcome you to share your own experiences with hair loss in the comments section. Thank you for reading!
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